Jeff Adams


Pepsi Can Moments

September 9, 2008

A friend of mine tells a story that fascinates me for the way it represents a truth of life. The image is powerful and lodges in the mind.

Years ago my friend was invited out by a good-looking man who appealed to her immensely. By all appearances he was intelligent, charming, witty and many other qualities she admired in a man. The much anticipated moment arrived as he came by to pick her up.

Riding along in his car, they were having a perfectly delightful time. The conversation was engaging and the more they talked, the more her hopes rose that this would be the relationship for which she had been waiting.

Suddenly, he rolled down the window, took the Pepsi can from which he had been drinking and casually tossed it out the window.

In that one moment of time, with that one simple act, everything changed. Any feelings she had for him, any respect, any interest, romantic or otherwise, went right out the window with the Pepsi can. That single event burst the bubble and ended it all. She never saw him again, nor did she want to.

She would later use that incident as an object lesson for her daughter. For years they have continued to speak of those Pepsi-can-out-the-window moments. All it takes is one crass action, one selfish, thoughtless remark or deed to dash all respect or feeling for someone.

Have you ever had a Pepsi-can-out-the-window moment? I have thought about this so many times since I first heard the story. More than once I have found myself thinking, “Well, THAT was a Pepsi-can-out-the-window moment!” Have you had one of those moments lately? Any you’d care to share? Have you ever been guilty of a Pepsi-can-out-the-window moment?

  • Shirley Chibogwu

    I was on a dinner date years ago, so far, so good. After the check had been paid, my date leaned over and asked if he could have my leftovers for his to-go box. Not only did the can go out of the window but so did he.

  • Tina Lewis Rowe

    Great story! I have sometimes felt as Amanda said, that I have figuratively tossed a Pepsi can out the window, and I’ve seen in the eyes of others, a disappointed look! Sometimes I have been able to (also figuratively) turn around, drive back and pick up the Pepsi can. Whew! But not always. :-(

    Thank you for such a human story! One thing you never need to worry about is disappointing anyone. Must be nice!

    Tina

  • Julie Gates

    Yes, I’m guilty! Sometimes you have to be careful with those Pepsi-can-moments. There was a time I threw out the idea of (my now husband) Scotty Gates because he was too nice, polite, kind , and he would never throw a can out the window! I had an idea in my head that I needed or wanted someone outgoing, extroverted, someone on the wild side… who would throw a can out the window! Well, come to find out after 4 years of throwing out the idea or running from Scotty, he was exactly what I needed and the very thing I threw out is what I love about him most. So be careful…. you might find yourself going back, picking up that can and loving it for the rest of your life!

    P.S. Not to mention that I had many friends, family, mentors and pastors telling me to go back and get that can….and to top it off the Holy spirit….. wow, like I said be careful what you throw out!!
    Julie Anne GATES!

  • http://hiddenart.wordpress.com amanda

    I am sure I have been guilty of many Pepsi-can-out-the-window moments, me being the thrower of the can. But sadly, I am very seldom aware of my blunders.
    amanda